living space, figuring out powers of attorney, spotting and dealing with signs of dementia, asking them to give up the car keys or consider assisted living . . . the first step toward tackling these concerns and more is an honest, informed discussion.

Here are prompts and road maps for twenty-seven essential conversations--with your parent, other family members, and health care providers--including:

• Does my parent need help around the house?
• What kind of medical issues should we look out for?
• Do I really need to help my parents if they're toxic?
• How can my family share the caregiving load?

How to approach these topics is just as important as what needs to be said, so each chapter has tips for navigating complex emotions and finding shared ground when everyone has different ideas. You'll get informed, have a productive discussion, and make a plan--so you can get back to making the most of your time with your parent.