but what should your loved ones do with your costume jewelry and their grief? None of us wants to think about that day when we're gone. But whether you're leaving instructions or asking for them, talking about it is an enduring gift of love.

How do you want to be remembered? How should your birthdays be honored after you're gone? What are your religious or spiritual beliefs about what happens after you die? What is your legacy of love that you'll leave behind?

It doesn't have to be a "grave" conversation. Discussing your wishes might deepen your relationships, reduce clutter, and put you more in charge of what happens after that most

unplanned event.

In Loving Memory offers you a guidebook of topics to explore, that includes excerpts by the author's instructions to her own loved ones. Like the spare tire in the car, your instructions will be there when needed, at the most difficult time for your loved ones to be stranded without you.