ibed as an optimistic realist. I think that describes me very well. I am neither one to sugarcoat a situation nor think it is worse. I do feel like the bag, at times, represents me. As I struggle through decisions in my life, including the decision to come out and accept my authentic self, whatever the bag represents, I have always seen that simple bag that refused to fall prey to the muddy waters as my inspiration-my hope of survival. I will not be drowned in hate, self-pity, or any other negative force that comes to me. I will, like that bag, find a way to stay afloat and prevail. I had no intentions of ever telling anyone that I was HIV positive, let alone becoming a speaker, an advocate, or an activist. To grow and become a writer seemed unreal, but over the years, many people have said that I should write my story and share my experiences, and here I am. It has been an amazing journey. I hope to share my lessons, and my wish is that you get something out of this book.